Maggie Gallagher’s Ideal Marriage (3)

Maggie Gallagher

My friend Dean Hansen shares his thoughts about the Gallagher/Boies debate:

Maggie says that marriage is “fundamentally an idea.” Well, the best ideas are fluid, pliant and flexible. They accommodate change and growth. The idea that marriage should always be between a man and a women is no longer sustainable. The change she rebels against doesn’t represent a new idea, but an enlargement of the earlier one, and a necessary enlargement that honors the same commitments, passion and dignity as the prevailing concept.

Her argument rests on the belief that there’s something special about marriage that justifies its unique status. And what is this difference that she lasers in on? You can plump up your tummy and bang out your own biological children. And by doing so, add an additional burden to an already overpopulated world whose resources cannot rationally sustain them. Or, you can honor an extension of the existing ideal by acknowledging gay marriage for its complementary and equally unique status: Men cannot make babies with other men and women cannot make babies with other women. But what both can do is express the benefits of filiation and nurture by absorbing what heterosexual marriage in its illusions of uniqueness recklessly throws away: wards of the state, orphans, abandoned and homeless children. Good parenting should not be held hostage by heterosexual arrangements. David Boies, to his credit, honed in on this point right away.

Since every gay child in the world, male and female, came into the world through the union of a heterosexual couple, the marital union itself is responsible for the very diversity which its advocates find some way to be offended by. Homosexual men and women are our children. Our brothers, sisters, sons and daughters. In short, they are our family, and we should honor their happiness and fulfillment as we honor our own.

Maggie says that gay marriage represents the end of the idea that traditional marriage is an important and distinctive ideal for culture. And she’s right [about the importance of traditional marriage], if we want to go on having a future on this planet. She’s wrong to suggest that marriage can legally or morally continue to ignore the needs of people who have been excluded from its benefits and blessings without any rational or reasonable cause.

Maggie Gallagher apparently doesn’t have any argument against gays being happy so long as their desire for full enfranchisement doesn’t cause her any instinctive distress.


Tags: , ,

One Response to “Maggie Gallagher’s Ideal Marriage (3)”

  1. John Says:

    hey, nice blog…really like it and added to bookmarks. keep up with good work

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )


Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: